7:44 AM PT: Thanks for all of the great comments!  I'd first like to say that things always change.  The uncle that I met is super conservative, and just think, he's looked down on single mothers and their broken families for years, and now his long lost (college educated) nephew was raised by a spectacular single mother, and its -his- brother that didn't step up to the plate.  That's going to take some re-ordering on his part.